These coparenting tips will change everything for you

On behalf of Mohajer Law Firm, APC posted in child custody on Monday, March 19, 2018. If you are considering divorce or leaving a long-time partner, you’ll naturally begin to turn your attention to the future. How will you get by on your own? What’s the best way to raise your children? Most importantly, will you be able to co-parent successfully? No one should ever tell you that parenting is easy. Challenges will arise every now and again. Even though you can expect some bumps along the way, there are many things you can do that will put you in a better position for success. Four tips for making co-parenting a success Here are several co-parenting tips that can change things for the better: Be considerate. You definitely need to care for yourself after your divorce, but you still need to take your ex’s feelings into consideration. He or she is also going through a difficult time, so make sure you keep this in mind when making parenting decisions. Be as flexible as possible. While you want to follow your parenting agreement closely, there will be times when you need to make changes. Being flexible can go a long way in helping you avoid unnecessary arguments. Avoid unnecessary arguments. When co-parenting, an argument can pop up out of nowhere. This is normal, especially at the beginning when you are both getting used to a new routine. Pick your battles, or you’ll find yourself squaring off against your ex-partner all too often, which can negatively impact not only you but also your children. Continue to communicate. Even if you had a messy divorce or separation, co-parenting is all about communicating with your child’s other parent. You should find a strategy that works for you, such as text messaging or chatting on the phone. Once you find a communication channel that works, stick with it unless or until you need to make a change. The most important thing to remember is that your children always come first. If both you and your ex-partner take this approach, you’ll be in a better position to make the right decisions.

Navigating child custody issues in California

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November 30, 2017
Child Custody
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On behalf of Mohajer Law Firm, APC posted in child custody on Thursday, November 30, 2017. When couples separate and move apart before the divorce, couples must overcome many questions and confusion over interim child custody. Although they may choose equal custody rights, spouses can do unwise things that can have negative circumstances and backfire on them later when a judge rules on a child custody dispute. Engaging in self-help by taking unilateral actions and disregarding the other parent’s wishes can lead to these problems. Taking the children during unannounced visits is untenable and harmful to the children. In fact, the best interests of the child have priority over either parents’ needs. Children may have attachments to their current homes and friends, which should be considered in custody and visitation matters. Equal custody agreements may sound attractive, but may not be practical unless both parents have a strong relationship, live close by and there is little disruption to the children’s routine. It may be more important to assure that each child has frequent contact with each parent than assuring that time is divided equally. Parents oftentimes should, if possible, reach a temporary agreement on visitation and other child-related issues before the divorce, even if it is only verbal. They should keep communicating and keep each other informed about important matters, such as the children’s health, their activities and their school performance. However, children are not messengers between the parents. A parent should never criticize their spouse in front of the children. Parents should also be flexible and agree to alternative schedules when visitation plans must change for unexpected events. Courts will later disapprove and take into consideration when a parent refuses contact between the children and their other parent. Parents, in addition to visits, should encourage telephone conversations and other communication between the other parent and their children. Ongoing communication and agreement may eliminate some legal disputes and the need for a temporary custody order. However, a parent should seek legal assistance to help assure that a parent’s rights and the children’s best interests are protected during a divorce.

Why courts focus on the best interests of the child

On behalf of Mohajer Law Firm, APC posted in child custody on Friday, July 14, 2017. While going through a divorce with children involved from the marriage, many of the decisions made by the California courts will be made by one standard: “protecting the best interests of the children.” So what is meant by this, and how do the courts take this consideration and apply it to their decisions regarding child custody and child support? The courts recognize the importance of a child’s life and understand that the environment they live in could affect their upbringing and what type of people they become later in life. The courts want to minimize the impact a divorce may have on a child as much as possible. Although inevitably many changes will be made, if the courts can minimize the changes in a child’s life, it may help protect them from any possible negative impact the child may experience. The courts will take several factors into consideration while making their decisions. These could include but are not limited to studying the child and family’s lifestyle before the divorce. They will look to determine who the overall caregiver of the child or children is — who feeds and dresses the child, who takes the child out during errands and for recreational activities, who studies and does homework with the child, who puts the child to bed, and so on. The courts will also look at the physical and mental health of each parent. They will look at the finances and earnings of each parent. They may even ask the children for their own opinions on their relationships with their parents. These are all factors that go into the court’s decision. If you are going through a divorce and have concerns or questions about how the courts will make their ruling regarding child custody, you may want to speak with a law firm that handles family law. Having a strong team at your side might prove to be beneficial in obtaining the wishes you seek with regard to divorce and the decisions made by the courts.

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