On behalf of Mohajer Law Firm, APC posted in child custody and parenting plans on Wednesday, November 14, 2018.
One of the most difficult experiences for a child is being raised in two different homes after their parents separate or go through a divorce. There will be constant shuffling between the two homes, two sets of clothes, two sets of furniture, two bedrooms and sharing holidays with both parents. On top of all of this, the child will need to adjust to not seeing both parents every day. Here are some tips for making it easier for children during transitions.
When a child is still adjusting to life in a new home with one of their parents, you can make things very easy on them by helping them understand their schedule. Print out the parenting schedule on a piece of paper and hang it in a commonplace, such as the refrigerator or on the corkboard above their desk in their bedroom. This allows them to prepare days in advance for going to the other home.
Never have the child pack a bag for when they will be headed to the home of the other parent. Asking them to pack a bag, which is best known for a vacation, can add unneeded stress to their lives. Make sure the child has plenty of clothes in both homes, so they never have to pack a bag.
When the time comes to change custody of the child, you need to keep this event free of arguments, tension and other issues that can lead to stress for the child. Don’t even attempt to whisper arguments in front of the child. It will be noticed, and they will worry that things are going to get worse.
Helping a child get accustomed to various transitions in their life due to parental separation or divorce can be difficult. It’s important to handle these situations with care in order to make the child feel comfortable and adjust properly.